7-video series on “What To Do When THIS Makes You Suffer”
“Hello to you! What is up for today? I hope you’re having a great week and I’m back with the video number five of the seven videos of what to do when this makes you suffer.
So today we’re going to talk about communication, so when the communication or your communication is making you suffer. So, when you feel you’re not understood or when you feel that you can’t express exactly how you feel and you feel that the communication that you’re expressing or some type of communication with somebody is not clear, it’s not really precise and it’s not satisfactory, then obviously you suffer, and most of the time when you suffer from your communication then everybody that you’re trying to communicate to also suffers to a certain extent.
Earlier this week we talked about the relationship, so what to do when there’s a relationship that there is something that’s irritating you in the relationship. Then it’s to love yourself more on that specific element and the communication part is almost the same, but with a more outward motion, if I could say, so for the relationship when something is irritating you within a relationship you have to put the focus on you and giving yourself more love for that precise element and communication is when you feel either misunderstood or you can’t find the right words or your communication is not fluid or your thought pattern is not clear and you’re trying to, you bumble your way out into a conversation, then the idea, the simple idea but not necessarily super easy to do is to practice.
Now, I know some of you will say “Is that it?” Well, yes. Communication is an art and you have to practice it. You have to learn it. You have to constantly express yourself on any level either if it’s a super intellectual level on a really technical and specific idea that you want to bring to somebody else. If you try to bring it and the other person doesn’t really understand, then it’s not because the other person is dumb or anything. When the communication doesn’t work, the responsibility falls on the person that is communicating, so if you’re communicating and you don’t feel understood, then it’s not about everybody else to try to understand you. It’s for you to try a new approach while communicating to fit your communication and to fit your message in a way where other people will understand it because that’s the basis. The basis of communication is to be understood.
So, as long as you’re not understood you have to try different ways so you can really deliver the exact message that you want to the person that is intended to. So, that’s the point of today to always practice and to really get the feedback of people, so when you express a certain message either if it’s in front of a crowd or one on one communication or in an intimate relationship, let’s say, you try to express your emotions, how you feel about a certain situation, if it comes out all wrong and wrong words and you seem to be irritating other people around you, then practice. Come back to yourself and say “Okay, what can I change to make myself be more or better understood?” and then you practice and you practice and you practice. Like I said at first, communication it’s an art. You need to practice it and whenever the communication part of your life is suffering, then that’s the message. Continue to practice because it’s suffering because you don’t communicate enough.
By communicating, at first it’s going to be awkward. It’s going to be off. It’s going to feel difficult, but then the more you communicate, the more you do it, the easier it’s going to be. Every single time you do it, it’s going to be easier.
In that sphere there’s also the idea of standing up for yourself and speaking up when something is not respecting your values or something that just feels wrong, then it’s still in communication, so when that happens, it’s exactly the same tip. At first, it’s going to be tough, but the more you practice it, the more you do it in any type of situation, then when the really important stuff comes up, it’s going to be easier for you to express yourself in a clear way that everybody can understand you on the first go.
So, again this is the tip of the day for the ‘what to do when your communication makes you suffer’ — then you have to really take all your courage and all your resilience and just step up to the plate and take another swing at it. Practice and I can guarantee you that every single time that you practice, you will get better.
So, I hope this helps you to slowly, one element at a time, to #StopTheSuffering and again, if somebody around you would appreciate that message or needs to hear this or needs to get another perspective on the idea of communication, then share with the links at the bottom of the page and there’s also some at the top. So share that on social media or private message or anything, and leave a comment — how could you use that trick? On what type of communication that is kind of off right now that you could use a second try and a third try and having it, getting the feedback of people to really get your message in a more natural way to communicate more efficiently with people? — So leave that in the comment and I’m always there if you have questions or anything, send me a quick email or, if it’s not personal, then put it in the comments and we can interact like that.
So, I hope you are doing great. Have a great week. I’m going to see you in the next video. In the next video we’re going to continue with video #6 on the 7-video series and we’re going to talk about the intuition. So wish you all the best. Namaste. Take care.”