7-video series on “What To Do When THIS Makes You Suffer”
“Hey everybody, it’s Ian, back again this week with another video. What I talked about last week was about physical pain, so what to do when you’re suffering physically. So I shared with you that there are two steps; the first step, the very first step is to stop and listen, and your body’s going to tell you what’s going on and what’s wrong, and then once you listen to your body, I strongly suggest that you go with what feels right. You can go get different information from different resources, but whatever feels right, then you should do it. And usually what your body, the main message your body is sending you is either to slow down or to stop. So when you get some more information, or some different options, do what feels right.
This week I want to share with you what to do when you suffer emotionally. So, an emotional suffering is when we’re caught up in anger for a while, or when we are sad for a period of time, or when our emotions are making us suffer, because we are having a hard time to come back into love and to joy and to gratitude. So what to do when you suffer emotionally? This step is super simple, but at the same time it’s not easy to do. It’s to let your emotions either run wild or whatever, but you have to let them out. That’s the main thing that we do: when we start to be sad for a little too long, or we start to get mad or something like that or something starts to piss us off, and we don’t want to impose that on others, what we tend to do as imperfect human beings, is that we’re going to stuff it down, and then hope that we can move on and it passes on, and that’s it.
But obviously the more we stuff down emotions, once in a while, it’s going to come back up, and that’s the first thing. When it comes back up, or when you’re stuck in anger, or when you’re stuck in sadness, or whatever, whatever comes up, you have to let it out. Let it out, and then what’s left is going to be way more manageable. You won’t have to stuff it down even more, so you can let it out. Sometimes it’s even painful letting out those emotions, and sometimes we have to be careful to not hurt the people around us by letting our emotions out, but it’s important to let them out.
Recently at a conference I was sharing that one of my ways to deal with overwhelm and too much emotions, once or twice a year, I go like on a secluded place, like just a hotel room or at my place with nobody, like nothing planned, nobody’s bothering me, and what I do is, I put on what I call a Chick Flick. Like a movie, that’s romantic, but at the same time it can be a little bit sad or something like that, like a dramatic movie. So I put that on, and whatever comes up, I let it out. Those types of movies, for me, they make me cry. They make me feel stuff, so as soon as the emotion comes up, I feel it completely and I let it out. So if I need to cry, I cry. If I need to laugh, I laugh. If it’s hurting, I just sit in it, and feel it, and then let it go.
I do that once or twice a year, and it helps me to manage the overflow. Obviously you don’t have to wait for six months or for a year to manage your emotions, it’s on a daily basis. What I mean is that everyday when there is an emotion that comes up; joy, sadness, anger, resentment, overwhelm, whatever, just take the time, again, slow down and stop, and take the time to really feel the emotion, and then let it go. So it’s going to be one more, or one less emotion to stuff down and deal with at a later date.
So, this is it for today. Remember when an emotion comes up, feel it, and then let it go. And to manage the emotions that you’ve been stuffing down for so long, then take a break, literally, take a break and find something that will be a positive release of all that energy stuffed down. Sometimes it’s sadness, sometimes it’s anger. Always remember to not hurt people around you while you do it, but there’s plenty of ways that you can do it, and I’ll share some in the next few months. Healthy ways to release those emotions and then to manage them.
So for now, just remember to let the emotions flow whenever they come up, and then you’ll have less to manage when the deeper stuffed down emotions are going to come up.
So I hope this helps you. Please leave a comment at the bottom of the video. If this is helpful for you, or what does it bring for you, what does it bring up for you? And if you feel that somebody you know should hear this message, then go ahead and share it, either on social medias or through e-mails or messages. Thank you for your attention. I will see you again very soon. In another video we’re going to talk about identity suffering. So, take care, see you then, and from now until then, continue to #StopTheSuffering. Ciao.”